MY WAKE UP CALL started a decade ago but I just ignored them. I would make excuses and explain them away. Eventually I did notice that the messages were getting louder and louder. Early in 2014, I woke up one day and I looked in the mirror and I didn't recognize who I was anymore. Worse, I didn't like what I saw.
ON THE OUTSIDE I had a good family and good circle of close friends. I had a good job working for a national charity which I thought gave me purpose as I was able to contribute to this worthy cause which affected me personally as my Dad had passed away from a heart attack and my husband had heart surgery. I was healthy with no major illness. I only had lower back pains, headaches and migraines on a regular basis. I would tell myself that it was just stress and I'm lucky that its not worse.... I "should" be happier. Yet I felt empty. depleted. void.
ON THE INSIDE ... I had completely lost sight of who I was. I was desperately co-depending for fear of not being loved or accepted. I was trapped in a pattern of working too hard - at work and at home. Taking on too much responsibility, being too serious. I was constantly stressed and always tired. Sadly, I had also forgotten how to laugh again. I was buried in physical and emotional pain. I was torn with feeling frustrated, resentful and angry with how unfair my life was and then struggling to be grateful for what I did have in my life. I realized that I was becoming a full-time victim/martyr. I was in a dark spin cycle and I didn't know how to let it go... until one day, I ended up at the emergency room with stroke-like symptoms. Instinctively, I knew, I could no longer ignore these wake up calls.
HONEST CHANGE ... I could no longer live my LIFE that way. I was a walking zombie going through the motions of my life and getting more depressed. I was deeply unfulfilled and sad that I couldn't enjoy or appreciate what I did have. I was yearning for more but I didn't even know what I wanted or how to begin unraveling the pieces. I just knew that I needed to STOP. Take notice of ME and un-peel the layers of who I became to rediscover who I actually want to be. To choose what I really wanted in my life and to change the lens on how I see, feel, say, act and show up.
NEW BEGINNINGS ... I quit my job to focus on healing myself, my family and my life. I embarked on my journey towards Conscious and Subconscious awareness to understand how my mind and body were connected. I began to learn to notice my thoughts and feelings and examine my beliefs and emotions. I gave myself full permission to be open and curious. I committed to investing in myself and I became a Certified Co-Active Coach, a Preferred Psych-K Facilitator and I also received my Certificate in Applied Positive Psychology. With all this new knowledge and my our personal experience, I created the ZENIFUL Mindset Model, Coaching Approach and LIFE perspectives. I coached myself through this program and prove to myself that it works. I wanted to be my example of how I can change the trajectory of my own life.
I AM NOW shining from the inside out. I no longer struggle with how I feel on the inside with how I show up on the outside. My LIFE perspective is my compass and it guides me to what's truly important to me in my life.
LOVE - I feel deeply connected, loving and present with everyone in my life. My heart is filled with immense joy.
IDENTITY - I have clarity, inner peace and self acceptance of who I am and who I am becoming
FREEDOM - I live from a place of abundance and I give myself permission to have fun, laugh, be silly and play again
ENERGY - I have mental and emotional space that invites energy to flow freely. I no longer have excruciating body pains.
This is my story - I'd love to hear about what you want to create in your life. Are you ready to ...
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